What is right
There are many grey areas to debate on "what is right, what is wrong". What I am often wondering is: "Is it right to judge someone on just one time when they did wrong or just based on some time in their lives when they weren't what me, you or society expected them to be?".
I don't know what is the right answer. I like to think about myself that I never give up on people and even tough they hurt me or hurt others at times, I try to at least see the reasoning behind that because we all make mistakes, we all do harm.
I don't wanna go to extreme examples but rather keep it to our everyday lives and maybe the bigger conclusion can be drawn from there.
Each of us has friends, family, people they know. In some cases, we even choose to not meet or hang out with some people because of what we hear from others. We rely so many things on what is right for others and, in some cases, that's not even what's right for them but what was right at some point for some other people. It's a snowball - many snowballs actually because you might do or be subjected to the same type of situation.
So, I guess the first thing to figure out would be "What is right for you, in your opinion?". If you feel ok on judging people based on the opinion of others, than fine. That is your choice. But if somehow that doesn't sound right, try to actually know that person before being a part of a snowball.
At least, that's what I find to be right. It's impossible to keep an objective approach when opinions have already been heard and maybe facts already speak for themselves but I think that, if you try to know someone, you will see that some points might prove right, others wrong and, based on what you think is right, you will have your own opinion.
When talking about people already in our lives, it is a bit trickier because many of us are very comfortable when we have familiar faces around us so it is a bit harder to see things clearer. Many people tend to stay in relationships although they don't feel happy and many things actually bother them. In my opinion, we should just try and take a deep breath and a step back. It's really difficult to think clearly when you're emotionally involved but, if something is not right, you know it. It's just really hard to also acknowledge it. But the fact that you don't wanna think it's real, it doesn't make it go away. So just take a step back and look at what don't you like. People don't change. Behaviors, ideas, experiences change but not people. If there is something you didn't like about someone at some point - something they did, said etc - it's not right, in my opinion, to judge them just based on one time. It's like seeing only the bad tree in a forest full of healthy green ones. People aren't perfect. You aren't perfect. If that behavior tough, repeats itself in other situations as well, I believe the healthier way for you is to understand that this is a part of that person. It's not gonna go away. People "just become more of who they really are".
So, are you ok with that? Is it right for you?
I only know what is right for me at this moment and you only know what is right for you at this moment. Nothing further than that.
I don't know what is the right answer. I like to think about myself that I never give up on people and even tough they hurt me or hurt others at times, I try to at least see the reasoning behind that because we all make mistakes, we all do harm.
I don't wanna go to extreme examples but rather keep it to our everyday lives and maybe the bigger conclusion can be drawn from there.
Each of us has friends, family, people they know. In some cases, we even choose to not meet or hang out with some people because of what we hear from others. We rely so many things on what is right for others and, in some cases, that's not even what's right for them but what was right at some point for some other people. It's a snowball - many snowballs actually because you might do or be subjected to the same type of situation.
So, I guess the first thing to figure out would be "What is right for you, in your opinion?". If you feel ok on judging people based on the opinion of others, than fine. That is your choice. But if somehow that doesn't sound right, try to actually know that person before being a part of a snowball.
At least, that's what I find to be right. It's impossible to keep an objective approach when opinions have already been heard and maybe facts already speak for themselves but I think that, if you try to know someone, you will see that some points might prove right, others wrong and, based on what you think is right, you will have your own opinion.
When talking about people already in our lives, it is a bit trickier because many of us are very comfortable when we have familiar faces around us so it is a bit harder to see things clearer. Many people tend to stay in relationships although they don't feel happy and many things actually bother them. In my opinion, we should just try and take a deep breath and a step back. It's really difficult to think clearly when you're emotionally involved but, if something is not right, you know it. It's just really hard to also acknowledge it. But the fact that you don't wanna think it's real, it doesn't make it go away. So just take a step back and look at what don't you like. People don't change. Behaviors, ideas, experiences change but not people. If there is something you didn't like about someone at some point - something they did, said etc - it's not right, in my opinion, to judge them just based on one time. It's like seeing only the bad tree in a forest full of healthy green ones. People aren't perfect. You aren't perfect. If that behavior tough, repeats itself in other situations as well, I believe the healthier way for you is to understand that this is a part of that person. It's not gonna go away. People "just become more of who they really are".
So, are you ok with that? Is it right for you?
I only know what is right for me at this moment and you only know what is right for you at this moment. Nothing further than that.
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